Love Rituals Are The Connections of Life
Love Rituals are the sweet ways in which we connect with our children, and this video brought me to tears. Moments and rituals like this build trust, confidence and self control in young children, and provide the feeling of safety and love we all need, no matter our age. And I love the idea that this also teaches children healthy, loving touch.
The Creative Playtime class I have done with both Associates (on their own, not together) has been such an amazing resource for me to learn more about my children’s personalities, behaviors and love languages. Associate A loves to squeeze, not just hug, when happy and scared. He needs to be held closely, firmly and he is gripping me back. Associate P loves to be scratched and rubbed while cuddling or before bed. I started doing that to him because I LOVED when my mom would “give me scratches,” which is how Associate P asks for them now. I had never thought of it in the full circle way before, but I bet if I asked my mom, she would say her mom did the same to her. And even without asking, I know my mom did it for her mother when she cared for her in her final years.
The video itself is from Conscious Discipline, which is also a great resource for the studious parent looking for useful advice on connecting with your children.